An audio book, each section beginning with a rule about open relationships (perhaps the rules that Emily made Ryan agree to when they married).
In 2016 a couple (Ryan and Ada) get lost on a rainy Wales walk. They see a run-down cottage which Ada wants to buy.
Emily, 43, had been in a relationship with Charlotte at university. She'd wanted to be a writer. Charlotte left her for a man and died young. A lecturer, Emily has 2 teenage sons and an open marriage (her idea) with Ryan, a prize-winning architect. She's more highly sexed than Ryan, having slept with over 30 people before marriage. She's had 60 partners during their marriage. He only wanted sex each fortnight or so. She's currently interested in a male student, Leo. Leo formally complains about her. She's also friendly with Adeline (Ada). Ryan and Ada go to the cottage each fortnight, trying to renovate it "in character". Spending money, keeping secrets, and repeat performances break the rules, but Ryan has done that for 7 months.
While Ryan and Ada are at the cottage Emily phones him to say that one of their sons has gone missing. Ryan want to go home. Ada questions his loyalty to her. The son's ok. Ryan and Emily are becoming distant. They try a family holiday, which doesn't help. Emily has sex with Ada (she'd been attracted before. She thought she was only into men). She has a one-nighter with Leo - they'd agreed that he'd retract his complaint if she did so. She liked it but that's all. He gets clingy. She buys a hut - a sort of writer's cabin. She and Ada frequently spend time there. Leo meets Ryan.
Emily moves out, stays with her sister. She meets Tom. Leo meets Emily. He says he's written a novel, a character based on her. Ryan suggests to Emily that they could be together again. When the boys were about 5, Ryan had threatened to leave. Leo tells Ada that he'll tell Emily about Ada and Ryan. He hopes that Emily will return to him.
Ada had told Emily that Emily and Leo had had sex while Emily was drugged, which is why she was prepared to sleep with him again. but now Leo says it's not. Leo tells Emily about Ada and Ryan, giving Emily the address of the Welsh cottage, saying that Ryan and Ada will be there. Ada tells Ryan that Emily is the best thing that's happened to her, but she likes the Welsh cottage too. Both Emily and Ryan ask why Ada kept the relationships going on too long. She says she was hedging bets.
I'm not too content about the ending. The plot device of whether or not Leo and Emily had sex (when she was drugged?) feels strained. And I'm not convinced by the choice of when gaps are left in the time-lines, and when we're told about the Venice trip details.
"boats leave stretchmarks in the sea" is an interesting phrase.
Other reviews
- Elspells (Recklessness is an important theme here, and the isolation of the cottage is effective in upping the stakes.)
- samstillreading (While The Codes of Love is essentially about a failing marriage, it’s also about things within that marriage. Power. Responsibility. Ageing. Emily has always held the power in the relationship and to see Ryan happy with someone else leads to a reduction in that power. Their children are also becoming more independent where Emily can’t control their movements. )
- goodreads (currently 3.8)